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CHANGE ~ How Bad Do You WANT It?

If you are perfectly content with your life, then praises to you … You are a very small percentage of the population.  Most people are in pursuit of change. The American Dream is full of change and upgrades that people believe will make them happier. However, most people are not willing to put forth the hard work necessary to make their dream a reality. Therein lays the real challenge to addiction recovery.

everything-in-your-life-is-a-reflection-of-a-choice-you-have-made-if-you-want-a-different-result-make-a-different-choiceI had breakfast with a group of old friends the other day. During the conversation, one of the women expressed her struggles with worry and fear. I shared truths from my own experience that worry was a choice to not trust God, that fear is not from God, that there are many places in scripture that tells us, “Do not worry,” ”Do not fear,” “Be anxious for nothing.” Why does he tell us not to worry? Because it is a sin to do so, and the “wages of sin is death!” I choose to believe and trust that I have a bigger God than my problems.  My friend was very offended and continued to clutch her emotions as if it were old friends. What would happen if she WANTed relief as much as she NEEDed it? For those who struggle with life controlling issues, change is necessary to gain freedom. Most people NEED to change to overcome the struggle. However, do they WANT it bad enough? When the pain outweighs the fear, a person will do the necessary work to change.

Everyone who comes to Faith Farm Ministries needs recovery … they NEED to change something. However, our Intake Counselors attempt to identify those who truly WANT to change.  We have 445 beds for men and women to receive a free, 9 month, drug and alcohol recovery program consisting of spiritual training, life skills, college accredited recovery and vocational classes with a work project. We provide a safe place … a non-judgmental place … where students obtain knowledge, skills and tools that help them learn to overcome life-controlling issues. We provide the necessary time needed to heal, restore, renew and build a strong foundation with faith, which provides strength to overcome life’s challenges and obstacles. We provide the place but there is no magic here! A student who comes to Faith Farm must WANT recovery. For those who WANT it bad enough, there is a 100% success rate.

About the author:  Judy Walters is the Project Manager for Faith Farm Ministries, serves on the ministries’ Academic Board serving as the Board Secretary and is a member of the Emmaus community. She is a published author,  copy writer and editor. She strongly conveys the healing nature of Christ through Celebrate Recovery 12 Step materials combined with The Alpha Series materials by Pastor John Glenn. She is a co-founder of the Boynton Beach Celebrate Recovery Group that currently meets at Faith Farm’s campus. As a mother of four with a former real estate career spanning 25 years, she has many stories and life lessons worth sharing. She is a licensed minister and a counselor with compassion and a powerful message of hope for those who struggle with life controlling issues. Audiences are sure to have valuable take-a-ways when Judy shares her powerful testimony to inspire and equip audiences in recovery from issues like addiction, co-dependency, abuse and low self-esteem. She has a genuine love for ALL of God’s people and cherishes diversity. She is an enthusiastic disciple that models agape love. Her goal is to remove the stereotype and preconceived stigma of addiction and recovery by showing others that recovery from life’s hurts, habits and hang-ups can be fun and fruitful. “People in recovery for any life controlling issues are the strongest, bravest and most transparent people I know, and I admire their courage.” 
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Drop And Give Me 10

6cro5K4eiPhysical fitness enthusiasts would not think of going without a daily workout to sculpt their bodies and keep their heart pumping while enjoying the endorphin rush. It is a non-compromised part of their life. The daily exercise keeps them healthy and feeling in tip-top shape. They would not flinch if someone told them to “Drop and Give Me 10!” Ten Push-ups (or 10 “Ps”) is nothing to someone who is a strong, healthy, physical fitness guru.

I am a spiritual fitness enthusiast.  I can say “Drop and Give Me 10” as a daily spiritual workout, sculpting the mind and keeping the heart flowing.  This, too, is a non-compromised part of my life. I will “Drop” (to my knees) and “Give Me 10” in order to stay spiritually fit. My “10” = Prayers, Psalms or Minutes. I challenge you to do the same.  Prayer is staying connected to your Life Source; communication with the Creator.

The Old Testament overflows with great prayers. A prayer of Hezekiah is a beautiful prayer.  Despite his perilous situation and the needs of his people, Hezekiah honored the Lord first with his praises. There are prayers of supplication like that of Elijah. First, he prayed for it not to rain and it did not … for 3 years. Then, he prayed for rain and it came. Abraham knew God very well, thus he was called the “friend” of God. In Abraham’s intercessory prayer, he pleaded with God to spare Sodom because Lot was there.  He pleaded on the grounds of God’s justice, claiming it was unlike God to slay the righteous along with the wicked.

There are many more prayer models: Daniel, Nehemiah, and of course, King David and his beautiful Psalms. Prayer is a tool we teach to our 445 students at Faith Farm Ministries, a free recovery program for men and women who struggle with addiction. The chance of recovery success dramatically increases when you stay connected, teachable and accountable with a regular regimen of spiritual fitness.

About the author:  Judy Walters is the Project Manager for Faith Farm Ministries and serves on the ministries’ Academic Board serving as the Board Secretary. She serves on the Board of Directors for the Oceanside Emmaus community and is a published author,  copy writer and editor. Audiences are sure to have valuable take-a-ways when Judy is the presenter as she draws on her past with her own powerful testimony to inspire and equip audiences in recovery from issues like addiction, co-dependency, abuse and low self-esteem. Her favorite thing is teaching, whether at the pulpit or in the classroom. She strongly conveys the healing nature of Christ through the Celebrate Recovery materials combined with knowledge from The Alpha Series materials by Pastor John Glenn. She is the Celebrate Recovery of Boynton Beach Ministry Leader. She provides administration, marketing, social media, event planning, donor development, customer service and public relations for Faith Farm as the ministry’s Project Manager.
As a mother of four with a former real estate career spanning 25 years, she has many stories and life lessons worth sharing. Redirection of her passion has led her to become a licensed minister and a counselor with compassion and a powerful message of hope for those who struggle with life controlling issues. She has a genuine love for ALL of God’s people and cherishes diversity. She is a friendly and enthusiastic disciple with a mission to show others what agape love looks like. Her goal is to remove the stereotype and preconceived stigma of addiction and recovery by showing others that recovery from life’s hurts, habits and hang-ups can be fun and even fruitful. “People in recovery for any life controlling issues are the strongest, bravest and most transparent people I know, and I admire their courage.”
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I’m a “Groupie” for Life!

HI_recovery1(1)I’m a “Groupie” and I’m proud of it! Small groups are where life happens. Think about it! From the moment you enter this world, you become part of a group … a family! Perhaps you are the blessed one who was born into the stereotypical “mom and dad with beautiful children” family. In the not so typical foster care system, you may have many siblings that change from time to time. It is still a group … a family. Growing up, you enter classrooms … many different groups with different people, focuses and chemistries.  We join scouting groups, youth clubs, sports teams and mission groups.  After beginning your career, you have certifications, accolades, professional organizations and licensing groups providing credentials that make you a better and more successful businessperson. Groups build us up, teach us and prepare us for life.

There are music groups, Facebook groups, church groups, bridge clubs, ethnic clubs, collectors clubs … groups for everything.  However, recovery small groups for addicts, codependents and hurting people are so important because they truly save lives. Why are they so important? First, small groups are Biblical. Genesis 2:18 states, “It is not good for man to be alone.” Life is meant to be done together.  Second, small groups build community.  People get close enough to each other to care, challenge, encourage and confide in one another, and this allows for maximum personal growth, which does not happen in isolation. Finally, small groups provide accountability. The chemistry in a small group that is non-judgmental and safe provides for an open, honest and intimate experience.  Holding a member accountable for their behaviors can often prevent an excursion down a dangerous path.

Faith Farm Ministries is structured around this small group accountability, education and spiritual foundation.  Morning classes, work projects and dwelling accommodations are all a type of small group. Our students attend Celebrate Recovery small groups as well.  For 65 years, Faith Farm has provided a free, drug and alcohol, addiction recovery program for men and women.  Our program is now 9 months long and we have 445 beds at three South Florida locations.  If all people understood the value of small groups as they live their lives, perhaps Faith Farm would not always have a waiting list of those who are seeking help from their hurts, habits and hang ups.

About the author:  Judy Walters is the Project Manager for Faith Farm Ministries and serves on the ministries’ Academic Board serving as the Board Secretary. She serves on the Board of Directors for the Oceanside Emmaus community and is a published author,  copy writer and editor. Audiences are sure to have valuable take-a-ways when Judy is the presenter as she draws on her past with her own powerful testimony to inspire and equip audiences in recovery from issues like addiction, co-dependency, abuse and low self-esteem. Her favorite thing is teaching, whether at the pulpit or in the classroom. She strongly conveys the healing nature of Christ through the Celebrate Recovery materials combined with knowledge from The Alpha Series materials by Pastor John Glenn. She is the Celebrate Recovery of Boynton Beach Ministry Leader. She provides administration, marketing, social media, event planning, donor development, customer service and public relations for Faith Farm as the ministry’s Project Manager.
As a mother of four with a former real estate career spanning 25 years, she has many stories and life lessons worth sharing. Redirection of her passion has led her to become a licensed minister and a counselor with compassion and a powerful message of hope for those who struggle with life controlling issues. She has a genuine love for ALL of God’s people and cherishes diversity. She is a friendly and enthusiastic disciple with a mission to show others what agape love looks like. Her goal is to remove the stereotype and preconceived stigma of addiction and recovery by showing others that recovery from life’s hurts, habits and hang-ups can be fun and even fruitful. “People in recovery for any life controlling issues are the strongest, bravest and most transparent people I know, and I admire their courage.”
Learn more about Judy | Request Judy

Why is addiction called a “Family Disease”?

By Kathy Brock Frasier, Regional Director of The Addict’s Mom

Addiction is called a “family disease” yet many will dispute this by responding “I do not have the problem. He/she has the problem because he /she is the one taking drugs.” However, addiction wraps its tentacles tightly around those closest to the addict, most typically family and friends. Good times, family events, love, happiness and joy are replaced by an obsession to stop the destructive behavior of the addict. Family resentment is fueled by the “enabler” who repeatedly attempts to fix the problem, using consequences that are otherwise effective with non-addicted children.

Following many attempts, strategies and years spent to stop the addict from taking drugs, the failed cycle remains in place and family dynamics change. Living with an addict causes severe trauma to everyone within the home. The stress brought about by addiction often manifests itself through physical ailments, including high blood pressure, headaches, frequent colds, chest pains, to name a few. Because we are so busy worrying about others, we fail to take care of ourselves. Brothers, sisters and spouses often feel excluded and unimportant, ultimatums are demanded to choose between the child and spouse, and strife in the household has become the norm. The family begins to disintegrate and resentment festers. The entire family feels anger, sadness, depression, fear, loneliness, jealousy, shame, inadequacy and failure. Purses and wallets become bedtime companions, deadlocks are placed on bedroom doors, valuables are hidden away in locked safes and the home becomes a fortress. Finances are depleted, friendships are lost, relationships are damaged, our health is poor and the home is a war zone. It feels helpless.

There is a word for behavior that enables an addict and it is called codependence. Some consider codependence a disease itself. The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines co-dependence as “a psychological condition or relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition (as in an addiction to alcohol or heroin); broadly: dependence on the needs of or control by another.”

Families are manipulated by addicts who will do or say anything to minimize their disease and to continue drug usage. As parents we want to believe the best of our addicted children as we always hold out hope that their words are true and there will be an end to the madness. What we fail to understand is the strength of the disease of addiction. When we choose to believe them and give in to their requests, only to be let down once again, we take it personally. We ask ourselves “how could our child do this to us?” Education surrounding the true brain disease of addiction is paramount to our own recovery of this disease, as well as theirs.

Once we recognize our futile attempts to stop a disease for which there has yet to be found a cure, we can begin to utilize different strategies in dealing with our addicted children. We can allow our children to feel the consequences and results of their behavior. In essence, we can “raise their bottom.” We can begin to take care of ourselves by reaching out to mothers who have had similar experiences. As we build friendships and feel supported and loved, it becomes easier to make difficult decisions and we learn new ways to cope with the reality of addiction.

While it’s commonly agreed that providing our addicted children with cash is not a good idea as it likely contributes to buying more drugs, and hiring expensive attorneys might provide a short reprieve, but does not guarantee recovery, we must remember that each circumstance and every child is unique. There is no right or wrong way to respond to a situation. We must live with our own decisions regarding enabling/codependence and each decision must be carefully weighed. One indisputable fact remains…a healthy and educated family is better equipped to face the trials of an addicted child.

Barbara Theodosiou
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The Addict’s Mom reaches out to families dealing with addiction.  We invite them to join us, where they can “Share without Shame,” the daily struggle, their sorrows, their victories with other families who understand the impact of this devastating disease.  We off resources, groups, referrals, but most of all we offer hope and the knowledge that we are not alone in this fight to change perceptions and save lives.  The Addict’s Mom is currently registering for non-profit status and growing by the hundreds daily.  Find us on Facebook as well as the web.  We Are Not Doctors or Therapist. We Do Not Give Medical Advice or Opinions or Engage In The Practice of Medicine or Therapy.  Opinions expressed by our members are opinions and should not be used as therapy or medical advice.  Always see guidance from your doctor or therapist before proceeding with any treatment or procedure. 

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